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		<description><![CDATA[In this week&#8217;s Pep Talk video the Comeback Coach, inspired by cleaning the clutter from his teenage daughter&#8217;s room, encourage others to have their actions speak far louder than their words. In this week&#8217;s Pep Talk the Comeback Coach, inspired by the &#8220;balloon hoax&#8221; couple&#8217;s ill-advised actions, encourages you to avoid deception and exploitation and [...]


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<p><em><span class="description">In this week&#8217;s Pep Talk video the Comeback Coach, inspired by cleaning the clutter from his teenage daughter&#8217;s room, encourage others to have their actions speak far louder than their words. </span></em><br />
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<p><em>In this week&#8217;s Pep Talk the Comeback Coach, inspired by the &#8220;balloon hoax&#8221; couple&#8217;s ill-advised actions, encourages you to avoid deception and exploitation and seek, instead, truth and responsibility</em></p>
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<p><em><span class="description">In this week&#8217;s Pep Talk video the Comeback Coach, inspired by the words of a motivational speaking icon, encourages you to eliminate the word &#8220;impossible&#8221; from your dictionary. </span> </em></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[By Richard B. Brooke Imagine for a moment, where our society would be if we (people and businesses) allowed ourselves to believe we have no need for improvement. If we settled for &#8220;good enough,&#8221; instead of reaching for excellence. If in the afterglow of great success, we adopted an attitude of &#8220;We&#8217;ve arrived!&#8221; and neglected [...]


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<p><strong>By <a href="http://www.richardbrooke.com" target="_self">Richard B. Brooke</a></strong></p>
<p><a href="http://singledadlife.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/istock_000002685378xsmall.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-2626" title="istock_000002685378xsmall" src="http://singledadlife.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/istock_000002685378xsmall.jpg" alt="istock 000002685378xsmall Being The Best You Can Be" width="292" height="283" /></a>Imagine for a moment, where our society would be if we (people and businesses) allowed ourselves to believe we have no need for improvement. If we settled for &#8220;good enough,&#8221; instead of reaching for excellence. If in the afterglow of great success, we adopted an attitude of &#8220;We&#8217;ve arrived!&#8221; and neglected to ask, &#8220;How can we improve and reach the next level?&#8221;</p>
<p>One of the most unique and powerful gifts we all have is the ability to better ourselves every day, in every way. It is the ultimate opportunity to have the emotional, intellectual and physical faculties to identify and execute change. And it pays huge dividends, in both our personal and professional lives.<br />
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We can study a little every day, either by reading or listening or watching something that will support us to make shifts in how we take care of ourselves and our future. Even the smallest steps can quickly compound into vast improvements in:</p>
<ul class="unIndentedList">
<li> Who we are</li>
<li> How we act</li>
<li> How we react</li>
<li> How we attract</li>
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<p><strong>The Japanese call it Kaizen &#8230; or &#8220;constant improvement.&#8221;</strong></p>
<p>Let&#8217;s look at some areas of our lives where small daily improvements can add up to make huge differences over time:<br />
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<p><span style="color: #993300;"><strong>YOUR HEALTH</strong></span></p>
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What could be more important? Take care of your body; it is the only one you get. It could last well past 100 years of vitality and wellness. Here are a few things we can do every day:</p>
<p>1.    <strong>Make one better decision about what you eat.</strong> Drop the sugar or salt you usually add to your food. Enjoy one less beer, or one more helping of fiber or greens. Move away from white flour. Stop buying the things at the grocery store that do not support your health. If they are not in the kitchen, you are likely to NOT eat them. Rethink how you look at food: from a source of pleasure, to a source of necessary fuel. Food <em>is</em> fuel. Bad fuel causes engine failure. Good fuel wins races.</p>
<p>2.    <strong>Drink more water.</strong> Put a gallon of water in the refrigerator and make it your goal to consume it every day.</p>
<p>3.    <strong>Add one more physical activity.</strong> Walk the stairs instead of taking the elevator.  Walk to the mailbox. Hire a personal trainer. Stretch. Do something fun and physical.</p>
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<li><strong>Take      time to relax</strong> &#8230; even 20 minutes a day can make a difference. Give yourself permission to      lie in the hammock or take a quiet bath.</li>
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<p><span style="color: #993300;"><strong>YOUR WEALTH</strong></span></p>
<p>This is our ticket to freedom, fun, adventure and contribution. Anyone can become wealthy. The level you need for freedom is different from others. Find your number. How much in assets and income do you want in order to live life to the fullest? Then do the following every day:</p>
<p>1.   <strong>Add value to YOU as a professional.</strong> It does not matter if you are a chicken chopper or a rocket scientist &#8230; add value to your income-earning self. Learn something new that has value to your clients or employer. Add a new skill. Develop a new distinction. Form a new habit. Offer more of your professional self than you have before. You will earn more every year.</p>
<p>2.   <strong>Save more.</strong> Save more of what you spend money on now. Look for ways to get the same value for less money. Buy a three-year-old car versus brand new. Eat out once less each month. Exchange full cable services for the basic. Anyone can figure out how to save $100 a month off just his or her existing expenses. One hundred dollars saved and invested over 30 years equals hundreds of thousands in wealth. Just $100 a month!</p>
<p>3.   <strong>Invest more in appreciating assets, and less in depreciating assets.</strong> More appreciating assets like real estate, home improvements, your professional value, stocks and bonds. Less depreciating assets like autos, entertainment, gifts and impulse purchases. Just by shifting a few hundred dollars you will add hundreds of thousands to your net worth.</p>
<p>4.   <strong>Build a royalty residual income. </strong>Even when built part time, this residual income adds significant wealth. Five hundred dollars a month in residual income is, in itself, &#8220;worth&#8221; $50,000. The added $500 a month you invest in real estate or stocks can be worth hundreds of thousands over time. Residual income can come from a solid Network Marketing business, an online business, or writing a book about something for which you have a passion.</p>
<p><span style="color: #993300;"><strong>HOW YOU ACT</strong></span></p>
<p>Are you kind? Are you compassionate? Are you generous? Do you take or give credit to others? Do you speak encouraging words? Do you speak about people&#8217;s strengths to others? Do you work enthusiastically? Do you do what you say you will do? Do you tell your truth when it could be a contribution? Do you listen to empower others?</p>
<p>How you and I act creates our value in the world &#8230; to the people around us like family, friends, coworkers and clients. When we act with excellence, speak with excellence, listen with excellence, and behave as excellent a person as we can in the moment, we are valued, we are attractive, we are trusted and we are loved.</p>
<p>Do these things every day to improve how you act:</p>
<p>1.   <strong>Make a commitment to <em>say</em> something kind every day</strong> &#8230; then increase it to every hour.</p>
<p>2.   <strong>Make the same commitment to <em>do</em> something kind every day. </strong>&#8220;Pay it Forward.&#8221;</p>
<p>3.   <strong>Make the same commitment to <em>listen</em> to someone </strong>&#8230; really listen to what they are saying, what they are not saying, what they really want to say, and how they feel. Listen to someone at a therapeutic level once a day.</p>
<p>4.   <strong>Audit your conversations.</strong> Develop the habit of asking yourself after each statement, &#8220;What was my motive in saying <em>what</em> I said and <em>how</em> I said it? Was it to contribute to the person, or to make myself look good?&#8221; Then ask yourself how you feel about someone who speaks to make themselves look good, more important than you, or more &#8220;right&#8221; than you.</p>
<p>5.   <strong>Make a bold request every day that will improve a relationship, business productivity, or will improve another person.</strong> For example, make a bold request that a friend or loved one stop speaking negatively about him or herself &#8211; battering their own poor self esteem. Or make a request that your spouse do something that you know will improve your love and relationship. When bold requests are made out of the context of support and improvement, they are often the tipping point that leads a person to act with excellence.</p>
<p><span style="color: #993300;"><strong>HOW YOU REACT</strong></span></p>
<p>If actions are those things we think about (however briefly) before doing them, then reactions are those things we do without thinking. They are our built-in boomerang, over which we may feel we have no control or personal responsibility. Most people react in negative and destructive ways.</p>
<p>We can develop new &#8220;reactions&#8221; by developing new interpretations and habits. Here are some examples:</p>
<p>1.   <strong>When someone speaks down to you, what do you think and how do you feel about it?</strong> What is your reaction? Do you feel they think you are smaller and less than them? Do you think they may be right? Do you react with anger and retaliation, or do you shut down? How would it change your reaction if, when someone spoke down to you, you &#8220;interpreted&#8221; that they, themselves, feel small and could really use a lift. This new interpretation gives you a perfect opportunity to engage improving how you act (See steps 1-5 above).</p>
<p>2.   <strong>When someone is late, do you think they disrespected you?</strong> How do you retaliate? What if instead, you interpreted their lateness as due to a life in overwhelm, a sick child, or someone being late for them? Do you see how that changes your reaction and gives another opportunity for steps 1-5 above?</p>
<p>3.   <strong>When someone in authority tells you &#8220;no&#8221; or <em>tells</em> you to do something versus <em>asks</em>, how do you react? </strong>What if you interpreted that this leader is working on their path of developing compassionate leadership; that they have more responsibilities than they can handle and they need support? Again, see steps 1-5 above.</p>
<p><span style="color: #993300;"><strong>HOW YOU ATTRACT</strong></span></p>
<p>Attraction is that mysterious energy that brings us a lucky outcome &#8230; the client or order we needed just in time; or the idea that breaks the log jam and propels us into massive productivity; or the person that just popped into our life and filled a void, either romantically or personally. We all know people who seem to hit the jackpots of life over and over again. We all know people who seem to always land on their feet and are always running with the wind towards their goals.</p>
<p>The <em>lucky ones</em> are those who were gifted by their parents with belief in themselves, such that they see every opportunity as a probability and inevitability. Everything<em> can</em> get done and <em>should</em> get done. No obstacle is too high or too wide. They deserve &#8211; not from and egotistical viewpoint, but from a spiritual abundance viewpoint &#8211; everything they choose to earn. They are the lucky ones. They are the one percent. About one out of 100 of us had parents lucky or wise enough to pass that gift on.</p>
<p><strong>And For the Rest of Us &#8230;</strong></p>
<p>There is a path, proven a billion times, which will bring anyone one of us the luck in life we so richly deserve. It is a simple path of Vision and Self-Motivation. It goes like this &#8230;</p>
<p><span style="color: #993300;"><strong>AUTHENTIC CORE VALUES</strong></span></p>
<p>We each have a set of &#8220;rules&#8221; that makes us uniquely who we are. These rules define what is most important to us in life &#8230; what <em>gives </em>us life. To us, these rules are as essential as air and water. We must have them to be all we can be. Values are just labels for these rules &#8230; labels of the things we hold dear to us. There are no limits to the labels you can place on what you consider to be your authentic core values. Here are just a few examples:</p>
<p align="center">Love &#8230; Fun &#8230; Adventure &#8230; Family &#8230; Spirituality &#8230; Leadership &#8230; Success &#8230; Discovery &#8230; Friendship &#8230; Excellence &#8230; Abundance &#8230; Honesty &#8230; Creativity &#8230;</p>
<p>The first step in the path, is to learn through self-discovery, self-listening and asking the right questions. What are <em>your</em> authentic core values? You will want to list them, keep them visually present, and refer to them as often as possible.</p>
<p><span style="color: #993300;"><strong>IMPOSED VALUES</strong></span></p>
<p>We each also have a set of &#8220;rules&#8221; or <strong>imposed values</strong>. These are rules to live by handed down by authority figures in our lives, usually during our formative years (ages 1-5). Imposed values are not our authentic rules, but usually our parents&#8217; rules; either authentic for them, or imposed by <em>their</em> parents (our grandparents). Here are some examples:</p>
<p align="center">Hard Work &#8230; Education &#8230; Responsibility &#8230; Cleanliness &#8230; Success &#8230;</p>
<p align="center">Family &#8230; Leadership &#8230; Spirituality &#8230; Security &#8230; Acceptance &#8230; Safety &#8230;</p>
<p>As you will notice, imposed values can also be <strong>authentic core values</strong>. What is authentic for one person, may be imposed for another. And just because your parents &#8220;insisted&#8221; that you live by a rule, does not mean it is not authentic for you. Identifying what is authentic for you is something only you can discover for yourself.</p>
<p>To capitalize on the laws of attraction, you will want to move away from living your life by any imposed rules. For when we live by imposed rules, you and I are always in conflict, always fighting, always resisting &#8230; and this is not the energy that attracts anything good.</p>
<p>Learn your imposed values, write them down and create a life plan to move away from them. This is not easy, nor will it usually happen quickly. And, it <em>must</em> happen for the real power you possess in your life to show up for you.</p>
<p><span style="color: #993300;"><strong>YOUR GIFTS</strong></span></p>
<p>Each of us has also been fortunate to be given gifts. Gifts are those attributes that come naturally to us and contribute to other people. Gifts are not truly gifts if they cannot be contributed to the benefit of others. Examples of gifts are:</p>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p align="center">Love &#8230; Friendship &#8230; Leadership &#8230; Creativity &#8230;</p>
<p align="center">Excellence &#8230; Safety &#8230; Joy&#8230; Listening &#8230; Honesty &#8230; Fun &#8230;</p>
<p>Learn your gift (or gifts) and again, write them down and keep them close to your daily living.</p>
<p>Once you know who you <em>are</em> (authentic values and gifts) you are ready to imagine what you want to <em>do</em> with your life, what you want to <em>have</em> in your life and, most importantly, who you want to <em>be</em>. This is as simple as writing a story &#8230; a story of how your life <em>would</em> be, <em>could</em> be and <em>will</em> be, if you could have it all.</p>
<p>Writing this story is like writing the screenplay of your life. It can be one page long or 100 pages long. It does not really matter, because for those diligent and deserving souls who get this far in knowing themselves, the rest is easy. The rest, as they say, is almost out of your hands.</p>
<p><span style="color: #993300;"><strong>WRITE YOUR STORY</strong></span></p>
<p>As you write it, embrace the authentic YOU that has been uncovered. Write it with all the imagination of Walt Disney and then &#8230;</p>
<p><span style="color: #993300;"><strong>Learn to Believe It!</strong></span></p>
<p>Most people in the world &#8220;believe&#8221; that beliefs are inherited, or are solely based on what has already occurred in one&#8217;s life. The truth is that all beliefs are learned, and most become self-fulfilling prophecies &#8230; meaning they became the truth because someone believed in them enough to make them true.</p>
<p>There are three ways to learn to believe. Either by studying evidence of the intended belief, believing what an authority figure tells us, or just imagining it (affirm it) over and over and over again. Most of what you and I believe today &#8211; about life, people, religion and even about politics &#8211; we learned from the repeated affirmations by those whom we trust. We can have the same imprinting process on ourselves, by imagining and affirming our own story.</p>
<p>When you have done this so often that you are starting to believe your imagined story, you will have created a <strong>vision</strong>. By definition, a vision is a story we fully believe, and which we expect to materialize. Visions, by definition, are inevitable.</p>
<p>A vision attracts its components to it like a magnet. A vision creates the motivation to bring it about. Motivation is that mysterious, powerful concoction of <strong>enthusiasm</strong>, <strong>courage</strong>, <strong>physical energy</strong> and <strong>creativity</strong> that makes things happen. Visions are lucky. Visionaries are the luckiest.</p>
<p>Find the true-blue you. Write the story of your future abundance. Learn to believe it is true for you. And then, all you have to do is hold on to being the best you can be.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[By Richard B. Brooke One of the biggest challenges I face in teaching people the Art of Self Motivation is leading them to understand how you and I learn to believe. By the Mach II definition, a vision is not a vision unless you have some belief that it is inevitable. Otherwise, it is nothing [...]


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<p>By <a title="Richard Brooke" href="http://www.richardbrooke.com" target="_self"><strong>Richard B. Brooke</strong></a></p>
<p><a href="http://singledadlife.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/believe.jpg"><img class="size-medium wp-image-1541 alignleft" title="believe" src="http://singledadlife.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/believe-300x199.jpg" alt="believe 300x199 The Truth About Believing" width="300" height="199" /></a>One of the biggest challenges I face in teaching people the Art of Self Motivation is leading them to understand how you and I learn to believe.</p>
<p>By the Mach II definition, a vision is not a vision unless you have some belief that it is inevitable. Otherwise, it is nothing more than a wish, at worst, and a goal, at best. Neither a wish nor a goal compare in power to a vision. Once we write some affirmations or a storyboarded vision, the big challenge comes in &#8220;being with it.&#8221; Every time we visualize it we may feel like a fraud. We may &#8220;know&#8221; it is not true, and so reading it every day becomes a chore and soon we may lose interest. So how do we learn to believe?</p>
<p>Here are the first two commonly accepted ways people learn to believe:<span id="more-1534"></span></p>
<p>First, if you have actually experienced something, then you will believe it. This is because you hold that an actual experience is the truth and you automatically believe what you hold as true.</p>
<p>Next, there is input from authority figures, whether it is your parents, teachers, bosses or the media. If an authority figure says it is true, you often automatically believe it is true.</p>
<p>Imagine how easy it would be to &#8220;expect success&#8221; if you had been successful at the same venture before. Imagine how naturally you would make things happen if everyone important in your life &#8211; from your parents, to your clergy, to your spouse, to all your friends &#8211; insisted that you had the magic touch. It is easy to believe these first two ways. Unfortunately we don&#8217;t all have this going for us on every new venture we choose to tackle.</p>
<p>There is a third nearly lost art of believing that anyone can use, which is to &#8220;learn to believe&#8221; in anything. And it works like this:</p>
<p>There are two parts of you that make things happen. First is your conscious mind. Its job in life is to discern things like right and wrong, hot and cold, danger and safety, pleasure and pain. It draws on an infinite storehouse of experiences to match up what it is sensing with what it has sensed before. Out of all that, it draws conclusions in the form of opinions (&#8220;facts&#8221; if they are your own opinions and just opinions if they belong to others). You may call it judgment, or knowledge, or experience.</p>
<p>The conscious mind, in comparison to the other parts of you, is small and weak. It may have as many limiting judgments and opinions as it has empowering ones. It usually keeps you playing small and safe. It competes with others; it makes others less than you. It is the part of you that sits in a movie and &#8220;knows&#8221; that what you are viewing is all contrived. It knows that the movie is not real and that nothing really has happened to any of the people, regardless of what the film script dictates.</p>
<p>The other parts of you that makes things happen is comprised of your subconscious mind, your emotions and, if you will, your spiritual self. These parts, in combination, are the power within you that makes huge things happen and attracts good fortune to you. For most people, these parts are left to idle away in life, barely being utilized for anything truly desired.</p>
<p>These parts, in combination, create your intuition, your enthusiasm, your courage, your persistence and even extraordinary physical power, if needed. Anything that has ever been created or accomplished that is extraordinary in human history has been accomplished by placing these powers in play.</p>
<p>These are also the parts of you that do not &#8211; in fact cannot &#8211; distinguish the fact from the fiction in a movie. They are not influenced by the facts; they are only influenced by the story. They cannot tell the difference between a real event and one that has been vividly imagined. They cannot, will not, do not. If it is clearly imagined, it is to these powers as though it actually happened. And they respond accordingly. That is why, regardless of the facts, we cry in sad movies and we fear for the life of an actor in danger.</p>
<p>Our power to move mountains lies in our sadness, our fear, our joy and our anger. We can do anything and attract anything to us when we are moved to do so.</p>
<p>Herein lies the opportunity to believe in your visions. When you visualize something you want, and you do so according to Mach II, you will visualize it not as something you want, but as something you already have. That will trigger two things: One is the chatter of your conscious mind, which may have lots of opinions about your vision. Some may be empowering, others not so.</p>
<p>The other thing that happens &#8211; though not obvious at all &#8211; is that your spiritual self experiences the visualization of this &#8220;movie&#8221; as though it is actually happening. To your spiritual self, it is actually happening; it is a real experience; it is true. When you watch it once you get what we call an imprint. Watch it twice, you get two imprints; fifty times, fifty imprints. Each time it is to your spiritual self as though it has happened to you in real life. It starts to become part of your truth about you. You are now learning to believe.</p>
<p>This is the subtle behind-the-scenes way we believe, and given the chance, it will sneak up on you and start to influence your actions and attractions. For as you learn to believe in your visualizations, they become textbook visions. And the result is always the motivation to act and attract them into fruition.</p>
<p>The real challenge in mastering the Art of Self Motivation is to believe that you can, and will, learn to believe this way and then to act on it. You can trust in this process; it does work. It is working now for you &#8230; whether you choose the outcomes or not.</p>
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<p><strong>By <a href="http://www.richardbrooke.com" target="_self">Richard B. Brooke</a></strong></p>
<p>It&#8217;s happened to all of us. One day you are plodding through life just fine. Oh sure, things could be better. It would be nice if you were making more money and driving a really classy car. People would really take notice if you advanced to the next level in your company. But for the most part, you are content &#8230; doing just fine. Then you bump into and old colleague or college buddy, and suddenly your world isn&#8217;t so peachy.<span id="more-670"></span> You are forced to listen as your friend lists &#8211; one by one, leaving all humility aside &#8211; his recent achievements and numerous acquisitions.<a href="http://singledadlife.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/climbing-man.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-671" title="climbing-man" src="http://singledadlife.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/climbing-man.jpg" alt="climbing man No Hill For a Climber" width="413" height="291" /></a></p>
<p>Why him and not me, you may wonder. And if you are watching associates in the very company you&#8217;re in blow by you on their way to the top, your discouragement may turn to disbelief. With the same products and opportunities, why do some people create success while others struggle?</p>
<p>Obviously, there are a lot of factors unique to each of us. Call them challenges, excuses, priorities, circumstances or bad luck. We all have our hills to climb.</p>
<p><strong>With enough motivation, mountains turn into molehills and good luck will prevail.</strong></p>
<p>Motivation is that magic potion of emotional, internal energy that leads us to act powerfully. It&#8217;s a synergistic blend of enthusiasm, courage, persistence and creativity that has you looking at your world like a winner. You <em>see</em> it, <em>feel</em> it, and can even <em>taste</em> it. With that kind of magic mood, you and I can and will do anything we choose.</p>
<p>Motivation comes from a crystal-clear, heart-warming, mind-compelling vision &#8211; a Technicolor picture of what you see for yourself. A vision perfectly aligned with your goals, true values and natural gifts.</p>
<p>Now you have a choice. You can hope, wish for and want a compelling vision to visit you as it wanders the galaxy. That&#8217;s called bumping into motivation; but bumping into it happens about as often as you win the lottery. This, by the way, is how 95 percent of us manage our motivation &#8211; by accident.</p>
<p><strong>Or you can grab your destiny like your life depends on it and create a vision that propels you into massive action. </strong></p>
<p>You know how to do it. Think, dream, brainstorm and write. Keep writing and revising your vision until it works for you. Change it as soon as it quits working for you. And if you need help, I encourage you to get your hands on my book, <em>Mach II With Your Hair on Fire</em>.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s not easy. If it were, everyone would do it. But it&#8217;s what separates those with their &#8220;hair on fire&#8221; from those with wet heads. It&#8217;s up to you.</p>
<p>If you aren&#8217;t sure that your vision is powerful, just look at your actions in the past 90 days. Are you lighting up the world with your luck and good fortune? Or are you still struggling?</p>
<p>There&#8217;s no hill for a climber with a vision.</p>
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<p><strong>By <a href="http://www.richardbrooke.com" target="_self">Richard B. Brooke</a></strong></p>
<p>Think of a time when you really wanted something badly. When your need to have or achieve it consumed your thoughts, yet your mind convinced you it was out of reach or unattainable.<span id="more-662"></span></p>
<p>One of the greatest mysteries that surround the elusive nature of success, happiness and peace of mind is revealed when we understand one simple truth: <strong><em>Desire &#8211; in and of itself &#8211; means little and moves nothing.</em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em> </em></strong></p>
<p>The truth is, what you and I <em>want</em> matters little in this life. Everyone wants health, wealth, happiness and wisdom. Not everyone has these qualities, nor will they achieve them. Occasionally we do manage to enjoy one, or even all of them, for a time. It is this accidental bumping into success that has led us to believe that if we want something badly enough &#8211; and if we work hard enough for it &#8211; we are assured of getting it.</p>
<p>Good intentions are not, however, enough for us to rally the forces of nature to provide its abundance for us. There are other laws of nature with which we are less familiar and less skilled at employing. These laws are so available and powerful that merely practicing them produces enormous and rapid abundance.</p>
<p>What matters is what we <strong><em>expect</em></strong> of ourselves; what we <strong><em>believe </em></strong>is inevitable for us. What matters is our <strong><em>mindset</em></strong> about who we are and what we <strong><em>deserve</em></strong>.</p>
<p>It is not enough to want, wish or hope. It is not enough to set goals or work hard. We must affirm over and over again in our mind&#8217;s eye and in our heart that what we want is <strong>inevitable</strong>. We must see it, hear it, taste it and feel it happening right now. And we must do this regardless of any and all evidence to the contrary. We must establish <strong>faith</strong> (defined as belief without evidence) in our quest. We must act as though, pray as though, and move through our world as though what we want &#8230; ALREADY IS.</p>
<p>As human beings, we have the distinct advantage of having the extraordinary inability to distinguish between the real and the very well-imagined. A crystal-clear vision that is well rehearsed over and over becomes real, regardless of any evidence to the contrary. This is how you and I can turn our desires into our realities.</p>
<p><strong>Pick a Number</strong></p>
<p>Money is often seen as a villain in our lives, when actually it is merely an amplifier of our intentions. It can make bad intentions worse, as well as good intentions better. Our lives can be enhanced tremendously with financial freedom. Freedom to make our avocation our occupation. Freedom to give our time and money. Freedom to pursue our childhood dreams &#8211; and our adult fascinations.</p>
<p>You don&#8217;t necessarily have to be rich monetarily to enjoy these freedoms. What would you do differently in your life if you could just maintain your current income without going to work?</p>
<p>Now take a minute to dream a little. Pick a number &#8230; any income that would really alter your life, yet is still believable. Can you see yourself earning an extra thousand a month? What would you do with it? How would you make your life more fulfilling, more secure, and more adventuresome? How would you maximize your education, your personal and spiritual development?</p>
<p>Now write a vision of your life and the freedom you have just imagined. Describe it in detail, with as much passion, emotion and enthusiasm as possible. The key to having your subconscious mind access and believe in your vision is to make it vivid, clear and full of every detail, including the most important detail: how you <strong><em>feel</em></strong>.</p>
<p>Whether it&#8217;s in the area of your wealth, relationships, health, achievements, or all of the above &#8211; take charge of your future. Have the courage to direct its course. Be responsible for creating your life of choice. Our world will amaze you with its generosity. It is not without a price, yet if you chose a course dear to your heart, it is a price you will love to pay.</p>
<p><strong>THINK ABOUT IT &#8230;</strong></p>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>Which one area of your life do you most desire improvement?</strong></p>
<ul class="unIndentedList">
<li> Wealth</li>
<li> Personal Relationships</li>
<li> Health</li>
<li> Occupation</li>
<li> Education</li>
<li> Avocations</li>
<li> Time</li>
<li> Philanthropy &amp; Community Service</li>
<li> Personal Development</li>
<li> Spiritual Development</li>
<li> Peace of Mind</li>
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<p><strong><br />
</strong></p>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>Do you have a written, crystal-clear vision that supports your desire?</strong></p>
<p><strong>Do you read it daily to affirm its inevitability?</strong></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[By Richard B. Brooke I often marvel at the innovative men and women responsible for the advancement of modern technology. Somehow these brilliant minds refuse to believe there are limits to what they can create and accomplish. When you think about it, our minds are the most intricate and powerful &#8220;computers&#8221; imaginable. They are worth [...]


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<p><strong>By<a href="http://www.richardbrooke.com" target="_self"> Richard B. Brooke</a></strong></p>
<p>I often marvel at the innovative men and women responsible for the advancement of modern technology. Somehow these brilliant minds refuse to believe there are limits to what they can create and accomplish.<span id="more-651"></span></p>
<p>When you think about it, our minds are the most intricate and powerful &#8220;computers&#8221; imaginable. They are worth literally billions in what they can accomplish, just ask Bill Gates.</p>
<p>The problem with our &#8220;computer&#8221; is that we tend to let anyone and everyone program it. And the more respected and admired the source, the more quickly we adopt that programming as truth.</p>
<p>Even when we input the code ourselves, most of us don&#8217;t know the first thing about writing functional programs &#8211; much less the sophisticated ones that motivate us to breakthrough barriers and lead us to succeed.<br />
<strong>Purge the Old Programming</strong></p>
<p>Some of our most common programming leads to the belief that desire, hard work, being a good person and getting a good education will lead to our success. Many of our parents, grandparents and teachers hammer these concepts into our minds. Unfortunately, this old programming has very little to do with whether or not we actually achieve what we desire. The good news is we <em>can</em> purge the old and input new code that shifts the way we &#8211; and those we influence &#8211; go about creating a powerful life.</p>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<h1><strong>Get Very Clear About What You Want to Achieve</strong></h1>
<p>What does it look like exactly? What does it sound like? Smell like? Feel like?</p>
<p>This is called a Vision, or a mindset, or an expectation. Goals are merely things we want and hold in our minds and hearts as though we <em>do not</em> have them. The important distinction is that Visions express that we <em>do</em> have them &#8230; now.</p>
<p>The part of us that is powerful and can do anything &#8211; face any fear, climb any mountain, build any business, solve any problem &#8211; is our <em>spiritual self</em>. It includes our mind, our body, our emotions, our psyche and our intuition. These combined synergistic forces can and will achieve anything it is programmed to accomplish &#8230; even if you do not want it to.</p>
<h1><strong>Learn to Believe That It Is Inevitable</strong></h1>
<p>It is belief &#8211; the positive expectancy of holding your Vision as inevitable -that throws gas on the fire. When you <em>know</em> it will happen, <em>expect</em> it to happen, and <em>see </em>it happening in your mind, then it <em>will </em>happen.</p>
<p>When you <em>want</em> it to happen, <em>work hard</em> for it but believe it might not or should not happen (that maybe you are not even worth it or good enough to pull it off) then guess what? It won&#8217;t happen.</p>
<p>Program your own beliefs. One common way we learn to believe is for someone we trust implicitly to tell us something is so. This is how our minds were programmed to believe most of what we believe &#8211; through our parents and teachers during our developmental years. We rarely challenge those beliefs, even if they do not support us in living a fulfilling life as an adult.</p>
<p>Another way we learn to believe is by studying evidence. When we see something with our own eyes or experience it, we tend to believe it is so. We even have a name for it: Truth. Truth is something we have experienced and know to be so.</p>
<p>The third, less-common way we learn to believe is one that you and I can reprogram to change any aspect of our lives for the better, if we choose:</p>
<p><strong>Our spiritual self cannot tell the difference between a real experience (truth) and one that we have vividly imagined (Vision). </strong></p>
<p>Remember, our spiritual self is the powerful part of us that can and does do anything we want. Our mind can tell the difference between a real event and one vividly imagined, but our mind is not the part of us that is powerful or gets big things done.</p>
<p>Our mind has an opinion about everything. It is often a mess and the primary culprit in keeping our spiritual self from unleashing its power. Now you may say that your mind is brilliant, well-organized and knows lots of stuff about lots of stuff. And you may be right. But just ask your mind to allow you to do something you are afraid to do, and watch how much it knows about creative avoidance.</p>
<p>The fact that our spiritual self cannot tell the difference between the truth and truth imagined is the secret to programming any new belief. All we have to do is imagine over and over and over again this certain truth we have chosen (our Vision), and it is as though it is actually happening <em>to</em> us, <em>for</em> us and <em>with</em> us. We experience our Vision as the truth and in time, it becomes so.</p>
<h1><strong>Let It Happen</strong></h1>
<p>Letting it happen is different from <em>making</em> it happen. When we are motivated, we let things happen for us. There is a world of abundance out there; an abundance of money, love, health, fun and adventure. All we have to do is program our mind to believe in ourselves, and in our own value and dreams.</p>
<p>Between the ages of one and five, we were very good at all of that &#8230; it came naturally. We expressed our spirituality in our play, in our dreams and in our unconditional love. Then one day, we were asked to <em>grow up</em>. <em>Lie down</em> would be a better description of it.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s time to let your big dogs run. Those dreams and aspirations that keep nudging at your intuition may not bark, but you can tell they still want out. Listen to the big dogs. Therein lies the rest of your life.</p>
<p>You may have heard that bumblebees cannot fly &#8230; at least not according to aerodynamics. They are too big and heavy for their wingspan. No known science supports the idea that they can fly, yet they do. Perhaps they just don&#8217;t read.</p>
<p><strong>THINK ABOUT IT &#8230;</strong></p>
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<p><strong>Do you currently have a written personal Vision?</strong></p>
<p><strong>Does it move you when you read and visualize it?</strong></p>
<p><strong>Have you experienced &#8220;miracles&#8221; from your written Visions?</strong></p>
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