My Ex-Wife Displays Contempt For Rulings On Visitation – What can I do?

Question Submitted:

We received a new court order for unsupervised visitation and my ex-wife did not show up with my son for my visitation. I went to the local police station to file a report and the police told me I had to go back to the judge who issued the revision. My lawyer said “No, that’s not the way it’s done.”

So now I’m confused and not sure as to who is telling the truth? So in effect, I’m not sure if I can trust my lawyer. I want something done! This is not the first time she has displayed contempt for the court rulings! What can I do?

Answer:

Both your lawyer and the police officers may be correct. Your attorney is correct that an order from the Court providing you with parenting time is an order just like any other and should be enforced like any other order. However, police officers are often hesitant to become involved in child custody exchanges and some departments even have developed policies which prevent officers from becoming involved in situations such as yours.

In short, I think absent assistance from your local police department, you should find an attorney who will file a contempt action against your ex-wife asking her to be held personally accountable for her failure to follow the Court’s orders. You may ask for attorneys fees, sanctions and compensatory (ie: make-up) parenting time depending on your jurisdiction.

If your ex-wife persists in a pattern of willful disobedience of the Court’s orders, you may also eventually have grounds to seek primary custody of your son.

Jill Best is an attorney with Cordell & Cordell, PC, a family-law firm focusing on men. She writes for DadsDivorce.com