Comments on: Peter Ehrlich’s New Bedtime Fantasy

By: kathy adetuyi

kathy adetuyi — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 21:52:22 +0000

“Comfortable” silence is indeed one of the best parts of a love relationship. Knowing the other person doesn’t mind your flannel pyjama’s and better yet the more mature “you” inside those P.J.’s is the ultimate in emotional luxury!

By: Peter Ehrlich

Peter Ehrlich — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 19:49:12 +0000

Daryl, nice post. Thank you.

But with all due respect, I beg to differ. You can immediately test the “comfortable in your silence” moment with someone within the first month of knowing them.

Here’s what you do. Suggest you both spend a quiet Sunday brunch together. Then suggest reading in the same room together. Can both of you read whatever it is you’re reading in comfortable silence for a good hour or two? If you can, that’s a very good sign. If the person you’re with can’t help but interrupt the silence with “talking alot”, that’s not a good sign.

To quote Samuel Beckett – “Every word is like an unnecessary stain on silence and nothingness.”

By: Daryl

Daryl — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 11:27:25 +0000

I liked being married. I don’t think I realized it until I was not married anymore but in the past year I’ve realized that it was the concept of being married that I miss; not the person I was married to. I had my fun during the past year and probably could have gone on until I found someone who made me want to be married again. I am in love with my girlfriend but have realized that the comfortable silence you are talking about is a luxury in a relationship; one that can not just happen. It is a consequence of unconditional trust and that can only be gained through a long standing commitment where both people in the relationship have already taken the time to get to know everything there is to know about the other person. How long does this take? Months? Years? I’m a few months in right now and working on it…

By: shirley francisco

shirley francisco — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 15:40:25 +0000

Glad to hear that your date went really well but sorry to hear about the time you had to convince her of your intentions.. I am not taking sides here but if she came back to your place means that she had some trust for you but maybe some time in between her past caught up on her regarding the guys that she had dated..Anyway as for me I like and enjoy kissing and that is where i get to know if there is chemisty if any!! take care..Chow for now!

shirley

By: Peter Ehrlich

Peter Ehrlich — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 13:08:52 +0000

Shirley,

Thank you so much. You’ll like this. Yesterday I had a date. And it went really well. So we went back to my place where I gave her “the tour” and treated her with the utmost of respect. But through it all, until much times passed all she could worry/think about was, how I was ‘going to jump her”.

It was difficult to try to explain to her that the company was enough and that the fantasy was about “right intent kissing”.

Peter

By: shirley francisco

shirley francisco — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 09:45:36 +0000

Searching for answers to question “What is on a single dads mind? and came across yr article. Enjoyed reading it and answered a few questions which came across my mind. It is good to know that a man like you exist. I thought men never stop in their conquest, it is good to know some do or one like u exist…Looking forward to my future with your article in mind..u made my day!! tks and take care!
shirley