Comments on: In Defense of John Edwards

By: lawman@wrongful death lawyer salt lake city

lawman@wrongful death lawyer salt lake city — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 06:38:24 +0000

There is not much worse than the death of your children. I once leased space to a man that had lost his 5 year old son, and I felt so much sympathy I couldn’t kick him out when he stopped paying rent. I just kept thinking about how crappy a man’s life must be or a woman after the loss of a child, especially a 5 year old.

By: Cathy

Cathy — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 08:18:26 +0000

Wade Edwards died in 13/14 years ago. Yes, it is a horrific experience. I can’t image being able to breathe if something happened to one of my boys.

I know them both well enough to know that if they looked down on me behaving badly they would not be thinking, “my mom loved me so much that my death is causing her to destroy everything that was supposed to be precious to her.” Especially not 14 years later. Knowing my 25 year-old as well as I do I can only imagine how angry he would be, especially if I used his death as an excuse.

When do we as adults start takiing responsibility for our bad behavior? When do we stop giving people the option of blaming something else for their own bad choices and bad behavior?

I’ve taught my boys to take responsibility for their actions. To think before acting and to understand that choices come with consequences. And hopefully they won’t grow into men who make bad choices and blame it on past events.
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By: Peter Ehrlich

Peter Ehrlich — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 01:24:25 +0000

My son wouldn’t find comfort in his death being used as an excuse either, but that’s not the point. The fact remains, he would understand if I spiraled into the abyss of dark destruction. He would look down from above and muse, “my dad loved me more than anyone or anything in the world. I know that. I don’t find comfort in his behavior, but I understand.

When your child dies, it goes beyond “bad behavior”. Way beyond.

By: Cathy

Cathy — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 04:41:36 +0000

I can’t imagine that Wade Edwards would find much comfort in his death being used as an excuse for his father’s bad behavior.

I agree with James, it takes more courage to carry on. I’ve never been in his shoes and hope I never know that pain but I have to think that through all the pain I would attempt to live my life in a way that honored my lost child. Not in a way that would disgrace him, his mother and his siblings.

I feel compassion for John Edwards but I don’t make excuses for mine or anyone else’s bad behavior.
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By: James Carter

James Carter — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 17:22:50 +0000

My feeling is that is take more courage to carry on than it does to end it all. I am sure that initially the emotional pain would be unbearable. However, where there is life there is hope. I would like to think that I would choose to live a good life in order to honor the memory of my loved one.

Whatever the root cause for John Edwards self destructive behavior, I hope he finds his way through it and is able to forgive himself and accept the forgiveness of those close to him that have been hurt by all this.