Is Someday Going To Be Your Best Day
November 16, 2009 by Barry
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Is someday going to be your best day? I came across those words while reading a book by John Maxwell “Put Your Dream to the Test“
The book was actually given to me as a gift by my friend Mark. He invited me to lunch to catch up, and he had an extra copy of the book and he felt I would appreciate it. No strings attached. He just knew it would strike a chord with me. Giving without expecting anything in return. The ultimate and most meaningful gift.
He was right. John Maxwell is one of my favorite authors. I could not put the book down. But this one paragraph made me pause and think. I’m sure you have had those moments.
Here is what he wrote. ” To really live the journey is what matters. If you become fixated on a destination, even a dream destination, you can miss all the great things that happen along the way. And, you miss the joy of today. If you’re convinced that someday is going to be your best day, you won’t put enough into today, or get enough out of it”.
How many of you, myself included, have thought , ” when I have more money”, or “when I get that dream car”, or for some, “when I find that someone special”, ” when I, when I when I”.
Meanwhile, life passes by and we live in the someday I will be happy. Funny thing is once you finally acquire what you have dreamed about, there always seems to be another distant, “someday when I have that”.
Earl Nightingale in his award-winning and renown program “Earl Nightingale’s The Strangest Secret
All the great authors and teachers seem to share this same philosophy. There has got to be something to it.
One life. That is all you get. I am not saying it is easy. I will not stand in front of you and say I don’t have those moments or down days.
But I think if you can try and live with an attitude of gratitude and not wait for someday, today has a chance to be your best day.
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As much as “attitude of gratitude” and the point relative to living in the present, something else that you said here strikes home.
This: “Giving without expecting anything in return. The ultimate and most meaningful gift.”
As we enter the season of assessing good things in our life now, we should also be thinking about all the ways we can give, without expecting anything in return. We live in a world of cost/benefit, of barter, negotiation, and what’s in it for me. Perhaps a little more giving of self without thought to what you get in return is another way to celebrate the journey.
Sounds like you already get that.
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Barry,
Beautiful prose and so true. It reminds me of what a gentlemen said to me one day after I had given a Pep Talk to his group. The man approached me in the parking lot, thanked me for my time and then stated: “Mark, can I share with you what’s been my life’s mission for the past ten years?” I responded, “Sure.”
What Abe Vasquez then shared with me just knocked me socks off. He said, “Yesterday is history, tomorrow’s but a mystery. Today is a gift, that’s why it’s called the present.”
That’s all we have: right now. Let’s make the most of it. Barry, thanks for the reminder.
Sincerely,
Mark McIntosh
The Comeback Coach
Speaker and Author of: “Lemons into Margaritas”
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I just ran into this website doing research on empty nesting. Good job on the site! Looks very thorough. Is it pretty new as you don’t seem to garner many replies to your posts. May you be blessed with continued hits!
What is on my mind is a reflection on closure related to empty nesting for one thing. I moved out when my three kids were 3,6,10 and stayed geographically quite close. I got remarried first my youngest was a junior in college and the others were launched. Their mom got remarried just last year when the youngest was 23.
So. When they left for college, my routine wasn’t not that much different except for the mileage and frequency of visits. I’m wondering if I really put closure to those focused years of parenting. I certainly know we’ll be dad’s to the end, but there is a change in mission/vision which I may have half made when I moved out and stayed there all these years later…. Fortunately they are the best of kids, my wife’s two kids are also terrific. AND it’s time for me to move to the light for sure; I’ve always espoused that. I also know that loss and sadness are a part of really moving forward.
All three of my kids are in theater and the arts and I have been watching them for more than 15 years commit themselves to a play, do the tough work and pull of the team effort for good or ill when the curtain goes up! But what they do rarely gets done well for guys and for groups at work.
Those involved with the play strike the set.
They are required to come back on Sunday after a blow out party all night and help take down the set (not the theater!) throw away some, store other things, lick their wounds, talk about breakups and hookups and good and bad adult help. It’s sad/happy/painful…but cathartic. A couple of weeks after they almost all of them jump back on the next play to do it all over again.
Dan
D – Thanks for thoughts on giving of self. We can all gain from following that rule.
Mark- your comments mean the world to me. You are making a difference in peoples lives everyday.
Dan, thanks for sharing your thoughts. Now that you found SDL, stop by and make yourself comfortable.
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