Does A New Live-In Boyfriend Change My Alimony Payments?
October 30, 2009 by admin
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Question Submitted:
What is the rule for alimony when your ex-spouse’s boyfriend moves in? I’ve talked to a lot of guys about this and there seems to be confusion about the addition of a new live-in boyfriend. Does his income ever make any difference in the amount of maintenance and child support that I’m paying? Does the time that he has lived in the house make a difference? Do I still get right of first refusal when my wife wants to leave the kids with him?
Answer:
The child support and the right of first refusal should not be automatically affected by the status of the boyfriend, absent specific terms in your divorce addressing such circumstances.
While normally not applicable to most situations, if the boyfriend is contributing to the support of your ex, that may constitute a substantial change in her ability to provide more of the support for the children to permit you to seek a reduction in your obligation. Such a reduction would be unusual.
The right of first refusal is intended to assure that the parents, not step-parents or other caregivers, are given primary responsibility for caring for the children, such that childcare by the boyfriend is not a substitute for your involvement with your children and the right of first refusal should still apply.
Spousal support (alimony), however, is usually affected by cohabitation with someone who is helping to support the ex.
The theory is that if someone else has taken on the responsibility for supporting your ex, you should no longer have to support her. The impact of the boyfriend upon the spousal support will depend upon the terms of your divorce as to the type of spousal support and the reasons for the spousal support. The specifics as to when the cohabitation affects spousal support, and when you have to file with the court to end your support, vary by State.
You should seek an immediate review, before the boyfriend moves out, by qualified legal counsel, such as Cordell & Cordell, as to the impact of the boyfriend’s cohabitation on your divorce terms and the time frame to file court proceedings.
Richard Coffee is a Litigation Manager in the Belleville Illinois office of Cordell & Cordell. He is an experienced divorce attorney whose practice is devoted to domestic litigation. He is licensed in the State of Illinois and is admitted to practice law in the U.S. District Courts for Northern, Central and Southern Illinois.
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My ex is taking me back to court to adjust his alimony and child support after two years. I am a single mother of three that has been a stay at home mom for 10 years and we were married 9. He is also going through a bankruptcy and lost his job and just got a new one that is paying lower than before. He also got remarried 6 months after the divorce.
So my question is I have a new boyfriend who is living with me and my girls does he have to give his income information and will it effect my support. I live in WA state.
Thank you for any information.
ps his is very capable to keep increasing his income like has over the past
O is this only for men! Should I present it like I am a man. Come on now this is a single mother over here. Did none of you come from a single mother?
Similar questions are frequently answered on DadsDivorce.com by experienced attorneys. This is from a Cordell & Cordell attorney licensed in Illinois, so he can only give you general information. You should not rely upon this information as creating an attorney-client relationship, and you should seek counsel in your area for further instructions and suggestions within the parameters of the laws of your state.
Spousal support (alimony) is usually affected by cohabitation with someone who is helping to support the ex. The theory is that if someone else has taken on the responsibility for supporting you, he should no longer have to support you. The impact of the boyfriend upon the spousal support will depend upon the terms of your divorce as to the type of spousal support and the reasons for the spousal support. The specifics as to when the cohabitation affects spousal support vary by State.
You should seek an immediate review by qualified legal counsel as to the impact of the cohabitation on your divorce terms and the timeframe to file court proceedings.
Richard Coffee is a Litigation Manager in the Belleville Illinois office of Cordell & Cordell.