What I meant was – too many of us fail our children during the holidays.

When one stops doing that, one becomes the great single parent.

Cheers,

Peter

All we can do is try to take the high road, putting our kids first. It’s painful for us (and some parents are more willing to follow that approach than others), but our children never asked for the troubles they often find themselves in, pulled between households, living with the legacy of financial catastrophe, and the emotional void of vague recollections of a time “before” and the time “after.”

Whatever happens, I believe they deserve our best. And that often means considerable sacrifice on the part of one parent (occasionally both).

I do take exception to the use of the term “failed.” I believe we should banish it from our vocabularies when speaking of marriages that have ended. Fail your driver’s license test? OK. Fail at statistics in college? Fine. Fail at marriage? Poor use of terms. Most of us tried our best to create a workable family unit. People change; situations evolve; the unforeseen has a hand. And marriages end.

What we can control is the aftermath – making that as “successful” an experience of loving and giving and guiding for our children. And hopefully, for ourselves, finding some of the good stuff along the way.
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While I never believe in forcing anyone on anyone, if both parents are good parents, then it’s up to the “grown-ups” to work it out.

What if I child want to be with a parent simply because they get more candy there? That’s completely possible.

You would never know that. Is that fair to the other parent?

I believe that for all intents and purposes, children need the boundaries we parents present.

Respectfully,

Peter