Comments on: When are You No Longer a Single Parent? http://singledadlife.com/2009/06/26/longer-single-dad/ Single dads making a difference Fri, 03 Feb 2012 15:49:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: barryk http://singledadlife.com/2009/06/26/longer-single-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-7381 barryk Thu, 02 Jul 2009 16:13:36 +0000 http://singledadlife.com/?p=1594#comment-7381 Hi Maria, You certainly have a tongue twister there! Your attitude seems to be exactly what your husband and stepdaughter ordered. Thanks for sharing. Hi Maria,

You certainly have a tongue twister there! Your attitude seems to be exactly what your husband and stepdaughter ordered. Thanks for sharing.

]]> By: barryk http://singledadlife.com/2009/06/26/longer-single-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-7380 barryk Thu, 02 Jul 2009 16:07:25 +0000 http://singledadlife.com/?p=1594#comment-7380 I agree with you Greg. They always will see their mom and dad in separate homes. Also, welcome! I agree with you Greg. They always will see their mom and dad in separate homes. Also, welcome!

]]> By: Greg Williams http://singledadlife.com/2009/06/26/longer-single-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-7347 Greg Williams Thu, 02 Jul 2009 05:41:36 +0000 http://singledadlife.com/?p=1594#comment-7347 I think once you become a single parent you will always be a single parent in the eyes of your children .-= Greg Williams´s last blog ..<a href="http://chopperstake.blogspot.com/2009/06/males-view.html" rel="nofollow">A males view</a> =-. I think once you become a single parent you will always be a single parent in the eyes of your children
.-= Greg Williams´s last blog ..A males view =-.

]]> By: barryk http://singledadlife.com/2009/06/26/longer-single-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-6850 barryk Fri, 26 Jun 2009 19:51:02 +0000 http://singledadlife.com/?p=1594#comment-6850 " Snarky" ! I don't think I have ever head that word used before. I like it! It is a keeper. " Snarky" ! I don't think I have ever head that word used before. I like it! It is a keeper.

]]> By: barryk http://singledadlife.com/2009/06/26/longer-single-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-6848 barryk Fri, 26 Jun 2009 19:47:33 +0000 http://singledadlife.com/?p=1594#comment-6848 "single co-parenting Mama of a beautiful big-headed boy" Beautiful! But we have got to find a way to shorten that :) "single co-parenting Mama of a beautiful big-headed boy"
Beautiful! But we have got to find a way to shorten that :)

]]> By: maria http://singledadlife.com/2009/06/26/longer-single-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-6842 maria Fri, 26 Jun 2009 18:35:50 +0000 http://singledadlife.com/?p=1594#comment-6842 talibah raises an language snag that we've had to deal with. i married a single dad, but he had never been married to my stepdaughter's mom. my stepdaughter has two sets of parents (mom + stepdad, dad + stepmom) but none of us have been married before. thus, no one is "remarried"--we're just married. but i feel like a lot of folks only speak in terms of marriage-divorce-remarriage. even my stepdaughter will often say "my parents are divorced," so her friends will understand, even though that's not technically true. i remember my husband wondered aloud not long after we got married, "am i still a single dad?" i think in many ways he still is. i'm not offended by that classification--i know we're married! talibah raises an language snag that we’ve had to deal with. i married a single dad, but he had never been married to my stepdaughter’s mom. my stepdaughter has two sets of parents (mom + stepdad, dad + stepmom) but none of us have been married before. thus, no one is “remarried”–we’re just married. but i feel like a lot of folks only speak in terms of marriage-divorce-remarriage. even my stepdaughter will often say “my parents are divorced,” so her friends will understand, even though that’s not technically true.

i remember my husband wondered aloud not long after we got married, “am i still a single dad?” i think in many ways he still is. i’m not offended by that classification–i know we’re married!

]]> By: Talibah http://singledadlife.com/2009/06/26/longer-single-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-6840 Talibah Fri, 26 Jun 2009 18:20:25 +0000 http://singledadlife.com/?p=1594#comment-6840 Oh, and you can ignore the "Anyway," at the beginning of that comment! I'd written a sentence before it and then deleted it. :-) Oh, and you can ignore the "Anyway," at the beginning of that comment! I'd written a sentence before it and then deleted it. :-)

]]> By: Talibah http://singledadlife.com/2009/06/26/longer-single-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-6839 Talibah Fri, 26 Jun 2009 18:19:04 +0000 http://singledadlife.com/?p=1594#comment-6839 Anyway, thanks for raising the question, because I think it is something people need to grapple with. Language has power. What we call ourselves matters not just in how we are perceived but also how we frame our own circumstances and possibilities. And, whether the term is Baby Mama, single parent, etc., I still think there's a gap in language or gaps that if filled could be empowering to all of us. More and more, because my son's father and I work together to raise him despite our never having been married, I try to refer to myself as a single (still waiting on Mr. WeParent) co-parenting mother. It's a helluva long term, but it's the best I've gotten to so far. Soon enough, some creative genius will free us from this language void with a great acronym or term like the Bonus Moms did. Until then, I remain a single co-parenting Mama of a beautiful big-headed boy! Anyway, thanks for raising the question, because I think it is something people need to grapple with. Language has power. What we call ourselves matters not just in how we are perceived but also how we frame our own circumstances and possibilities. And, whether the term is Baby Mama, single parent, etc., I still think there's a gap in language or gaps that if filled could be empowering to all of us.

More and more, because my son's father and I work together to raise him despite our never having been married, I try to refer to myself as a single (still waiting on Mr. WeParent) co-parenting mother. It's a helluva long term, but it's the best I've gotten to so far. Soon enough, some creative genius will free us from this language void with a great acronym or term like the Bonus Moms did. Until then, I remain a single co-parenting Mama of a beautiful big-headed boy!

]]> By: TsQuest http://singledadlife.com/2009/06/26/longer-single-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-6838 TsQuest Fri, 26 Jun 2009 18:17:49 +0000 http://singledadlife.com/?p=1594#comment-6838 Wow. This is something I've never thought about. Its funny because single parents sometimes get kind of snarky about who can carry the "single parent" moniker. I guess everyone wants to appear to suffer more than others... Wow. This is something I've never thought about. Its funny because single parents sometimes get kind of snarky about who can carry the "single parent" moniker. I guess everyone wants to appear to suffer more than others…

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