Comments on: Is Winning An Excuse For Yelling? http://singledadlife.com/2009/04/22/is-winning-an-excuse-for-winning/ Single dads making a difference Fri, 03 Feb 2012 15:49:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Joe Starr http://singledadlife.com/2009/04/22/is-winning-an-excuse-for-winning/comment-page-1/#comment-8538 Joe Starr Thu, 27 May 2010 12:34:19 +0000 http://singledadlife.com/?p=922#comment-8538 A softball player threw a fly ball into an occupied dugout between innings from 1st base. The ball just missed my head but managed to break my thumb on contact. The ball could have easily hit another player on the bench. I yelled to the player to go to left field (while in immense pain) and repositioned the infield. There was no remorse by the child. At the conclusion of the game the players mother demanded an apology from me to her daughter and to herself for yelling and berating the child. What's wrong with this picture? By the way I did call the mother at home after the game. She told me that "What do you know about pain...I've gone through child birth!" -The Softball Commissioner. A softball player threw a fly ball into an occupied dugout between innings from 1st base. The ball just missed my head but managed to break my thumb on contact. The ball could have easily hit another player on the bench. I yelled to the player to go to left field (while in immense pain) and repositioned the infield. There was no remorse by the child. At the conclusion of the game the players mother demanded an apology from me to her daughter and to herself for yelling and berating the child. What’s wrong with this picture? By the way I did call the mother at home after the game. She told me that “What do you know about pain…I’ve gone through child birth!” -The Softball Commissioner.

]]> By: Lora http://singledadlife.com/2009/04/22/is-winning-an-excuse-for-winning/comment-page-1/#comment-8 Lora Tue, 05 May 2009 12:35:51 +0000 http://singledadlife.com/?p=922#comment-8 Oh, there's nothing wrong with yelling and screaming. It's only volume. How we know this is true is because we can yell out in happiness and scream for joy as well as in frustration or anger. It's the "words" behind the volume that matter. Hateful, hurtful words can be whispered just as effectively as yelled at the top of ones lungs. To yell out, "Get in there and do it right!" or to softly and calmly state, "You are a complete and worthless moron," - which is better? Besides, I never trust those "quiet" types. Oh, there’s nothing wrong with yelling and screaming. It’s only volume.
How we know this is true is because we can yell out in happiness and scream for joy as well as in frustration or anger.

It’s the “words” behind the volume that matter. Hateful, hurtful words can be whispered just as effectively as yelled at the top of ones lungs.

To yell out, “Get in there and do it right!” or to softly and calmly state, “You are a complete and worthless moron,” – which is better?

Besides, I never trust those “quiet” types.

]]> By: Sally W. http://singledadlife.com/2009/04/22/is-winning-an-excuse-for-winning/comment-page-1/#comment-6 Sally W. Mon, 04 May 2009 13:45:47 +0000 http://singledadlife.com/?p=922#comment-6 I do not agree with the style of this type of coaching. I have been a softball and basketball coach for both girls and boys for over 10 years and have never seen yelling work for any team. Positive comments and constructive criticism are the best techniques to use when trying to improve a player's fundamentals and for helping them become a confident, responsible person. I do not agree with the style of this type of coaching. I have been a softball and basketball coach for both girls and boys for over 10 years and have never seen yelling work for any team. Positive comments and constructive criticism are the best techniques to use when trying to improve a player’s fundamentals and for helping them become a confident, responsible person.

]]> By: Jay From Pa http://singledadlife.com/2009/04/22/is-winning-an-excuse-for-winning/comment-page-1/#comment-4 Jay From Pa Thu, 30 Apr 2009 20:35:08 +0000 http://singledadlife.com/?p=922#comment-4 He is not a good coach at all. Anyone can yell & have your players scared of you, but will that make you a good coach? Maybe he has great players that you & I can coach to win. My Son & Daughters HS Coach yells, but pulls the athlete over to tell them what they did wrong instead of screaming. These are encouraging words, explaining what not to do--but what should have been done. A Sports Psychologist out of Pitt --did a state survey of Coaches / Players in College / HS / MS and 98% said that their Coach is a Positive influence on their lives. You can ask yourself why Bobby Knight is not coaching anymore & it is not just his age..... He is not a good coach at all. Anyone can yell & have your players scared of you, but will that make you a good coach? Maybe he has great players that you & I can coach to win. My Son & Daughters HS Coach yells, but pulls the athlete over to tell them what they did wrong instead of screaming. These are encouraging words, explaining what not to do–but what should have been done. A Sports Psychologist out of Pitt –did a state survey of Coaches / Players in College / HS / MS and 98% said that their Coach is a Positive influence on their lives. You can ask yourself why Bobby Knight is not coaching anymore & it is not just his age…..

]]> By: Mark from PA http://singledadlife.com/2009/04/22/is-winning-an-excuse-for-winning/comment-page-1/#comment-3 Mark from PA Thu, 30 Apr 2009 19:37:22 +0000 http://singledadlife.com/?p=922#comment-3 No, I do not think this coach is a positive role model. And I would not want my boy to play for him. Today, I believe positive encouragement goes a long way and makes a better impact on the player. No, I do not think this coach is a positive role model.
And I would not want my boy to play for him.
Today, I believe positive encouragement goes a long way and makes a better impact on the player.

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