Do You Keep Secrets From Your Spouse? – Blended Family Differences?
A Dad’s Point-of-View By Bruce Sallan Is it ever okay to keep a secret from your spouse? If so, what secrets are okay and which are not? I would suggest there are times where a so-called “white lie” is a good thing while most of the time honesty is truly the best policy. Related posts:Pets are Good for the Whole familyDo Men Have Strong Emotional Support in Their Lives?Stuck Between My Wife and the Kids
Good Men Step In To Become Dads
By Peter Ehrlich Special to Single Dad Life My single mother collected bottles on Miami Beach for money. I know because she told me. I was on Google Earth recently to learn more about that "beach-bottle" time. I had a frayed document with the Miami address. After I punched it in, I was beamed down to float right above our Miami apartment. I hovered over the laneway that my mother had to have walked down to find her bottles. I stared at a great swath of sand at the end of the laneway, sharing the pain, shame and poverty that my mother must have ...
Single Parent Genie Gives You Three Lovers
By Peter Ehrlich Have you brought home two or three love interests to seriously meet and hang out with your child? If "yes," read on, because your child's developmental well-being will likely start to be compromised after they meet your next. A study out of Johns Hopkins University has shown "that a child who had experienced more than three transitions had more behavioural problems than those who had no transitions." The research, funded by the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development, was published in the April 2007 issue of American Sociological Review and was peer-reviewed. In it, 2,097 children ages 5 to ...
Haunted by ExSex
By Peter Ehrlich I’m haunted by my Ex Katherine. Not by that went wrong with our relationship, but what went right with our relationship – our love life. After being laid naked, fetal-positioned, paralyzed, and wanting by our breakup, I want to attempt a sequel with my Ex. I am willing to work harder on our vertical life together for the sake of getting back to our spectacular horizontal life together. How much harder? I am willing to change. But am I being naïve? Or is a fulfilling love life worth fighting extra hard for? Should I be ...
How to reclaim your space after divorce
So your ex has moved out – now what? Our guide to moving your home from "we" to "me" Article courtesy of Deborah Moskovitch * Although written from a woman's perspective, this information works for us guys as well. - SDL It was a dream-like experience. Upon returning from a weekend away with our children, the bedroom closets were empty-my husband, now my ex, had moved out. He took the fabulous living room furniture that we had purchased not that long ago. My world was changing. The reality was, I wanted to stop thinking about who I had become upon divorce-a single ...
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Marriage – It’s Complicated
A Dad’s Point-of-View By Bruce Sallan My wife took me to see Nancy Meyers’ new...
New Year’s Resolutions for Stepfamilies
By Wednesday Martin, Ph.D. The dawn of 2010 is a watershed moment for what we might...
Misinformation From the Stepmothering Industry
By Wednesday Martin, Ph.D. Books for stepmothers tend to perpetuate certain myths....
Selling Ourselves Short
By: Ben Murphy There’s an old adage that “Life is what happens to you...
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5 Divorce myths debunked
Are children of a divorced couple really doomed? We debunk myths about divorce. By:...
Mapping Out A Prenup .. Second Time Around
The Question: I’m about to get married for the second time. How do I ensure...
Identifying and Achieving Your Goals in a Divorce
By Erica Christian The circumstances giving rise to a divorce may be emotionally...
Is Someday Going To Be Your Best Day
Is someday going to be your best day? I came across those words while reading a book...
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Kids and Crocs
Summer means backyard barbecues, swimming pools, ice cream, and Crocs By: Howard Ludwig, TheFatherLife.com Many of the kids in my neighborhood wear uniforms to school. During the summer, they wear a uniform of a different sort – shorts, T-shirts and Crocs. Crocs are flexible foam shoes often sold in bright colors. The plastic clogs are riddled with... [Read more of this review]
Do You Keep Secrets From Your Spouse? – Blended Family Differences?
A Dad’s Point-of-View By Bruce Sallan Is it ever okay to keep a secret from your spouse? If so, what secrets are okay and which are not? I would suggest there are times where a so-called “white lie” is a good thing while most of the time honesty is truly the best policy. [Read more of this review] Read More →
My Son the Rock Star–Teens Dealing With Their Angst
A Dad’s Point-of-View By Bruce Sallan Teen energy, angst, and anger manifest itself in so many ways. Every day it seems that we read about some teen that has done something unusually self-destructive, and occasionally destructive to others. Columbine was an extreme example of this. Many so-called “normal” teens tend to use or abuse the ol’... [Read more of this review]
Good Men Step In To Become Dads
By Peter Ehrlich Special to Single Dad Life My single mother collected bottles on Miami Beach for money. I know because she told me. I was on Google Earth recently to learn more about that “beach-bottle” time. I had a frayed document with the Miami address. After I punched it in, I was beamed down to float right above our Miami apartment. I... [Read more of this review]
Single Parent Genie Gives You Three Lovers
By Peter Ehrlich Have you brought home two or three love interests to seriously meet and hang out with your child? If “yes,” read on, because your child’s developmental well-being will likely start to be compromised after they meet your next. A study out of Johns Hopkins University has shown “that a child who had experienced... [Read more of this review]
Only Love Can Break Your Heart
By Peter Ehrlich I remember the first time I heard Neil Young sing Only Love Can Break Your Heart, I was in my early twenties. And I remember what I thought about the song. “Nice little jingle, but I should get back to Keith Richards banging out his signature dirty riffs to All Down the Line. At that time I really never experienced the broken heart... [Read more of this review]
Haunted by ExSex
By Peter Ehrlich I’m haunted by my Ex Katherine. Not by that went wrong with our relationship, but what went right with our relationship – our love life. After being laid naked, fetal-positioned, paralyzed, and wanting by our breakup, I want to attempt a sequel with my Ex. I am willing to work harder on our vertical life together for the sake of... [Read more of this review]
Peter Ehrlich’s New Bedtime Fantasy
By Peter Ehrlich I want to talk about my newest, ongoing, “driving me forward” sexual fantasy. This twisted new fantasy is the new fuel that has launched me to join yet another dating site and contact virtually every single woman between the ages of 42 and 52. I can go to any dating site now and know the bio of most Toronto women right... [Read more of this review]
In Defense of John Edwards
By Peter Ehrlich For many years I’ve had this fantasy – to climb Mount Kilimanjaro with my teenage son. Climbing this iconic African mountain with Noah would be symbolic in that I would be passing the torch to my son. He would start the climb as a child-man and summit as a man. And as we stood on the top overlooking the Serengeti Plains... [Read more of this review]
How to reclaim your space after divorce
So your ex has moved out – now what? Our guide to moving your home from “we” to “me” Article courtesy of Deborah Moskovitch * Although written from a woman’s perspective, this information works for us guys as well. – SDL It was a dream-like experience. Upon returning from a weekend away with our children,... [Read more of this review]
We’re Giving Our Kids a Worse and Harder World
A Dad’s Point-of-View By Bruce Sallan The parents of every generation expect and hope that their children can and will do better than they did. Ours may be the first generation, in a very long while, where it is both unlikely and unrealistic to have this expectation. The world has just gotten much more complicated, much harder, and more competitive.... [Read more of this review]
Christmas Trees, Menorahs, and Being Apart (on Christmas)
A Dad’s Point-of-View By Bruce Sallan This holiday season my wife and I will celebrate our first year of marriage on separate continents. As we are different races and religions, there are usually challenges we encounter at this time of year, so maybe being 7,000 miles apart will make it easier. We’ve actually resolved the big conundrum... [Read more of this review]
Raising Kids Takes a Lot of Luck
A Dad’s Point-of-View By Bruce Sallan Raising kids, like many things in life, involves many factors but luck is a key factor. I’ve faced recent reminders about this when I attended the Bar Mitzvah of a young man with severe learning disabilities, whose parents had the poor luck that he had these problems. Or, the recent visit from my best... [Read more of this review]
Can Families Avoid Playing Favorites?
A Dad’s Point-of-View by Bruce Sallan Sitting in Starbuck’s the other day, waiting for my car to be serviced, I sat next to a mom who shared a “dirty little parenting secret.” Her kids, and she and her husband, have “favorites.” She gets along better with their younger child while her husband gets along better with... [Read more of this review]
Stuck Between My Wife and the Kids
A Dad’s Point-of-View By Bruce Sallan In every marriage, spouses face an inevitable choice between their children and their spouse. It is a classic dilemma that confronts every couple and one that is inescapable and difficult. It is especially true in second marriages, like mine. I have to admit, it is an ongoing issue in our home and one I’m... [Read more of this review]
10 Steps to a Happy, Healthy Remarriage
By Wednesday Martin, Ph.D. Don’t call them deadbeats. Research shows that today’s fathers are spending more time with their kids than ever — an average of nearly three and a half hours a day more than Dads of a few decades ago. Kids and fathers alike are reaping the benefits; more time spent together sows the seeds of closeness.... [Read more of this review]
Holidays a time to take high road
By Peter Ehrlich Special to Single Dad Life Listen. Can you hear it? The air is so still. And can you see the gathering clouds? Looks as if a storm is headed right for our sometimes fragile single parent homes and, if not prepared, we’ll be picking up the pieces for a long time. It’s called the holiday season. You weathered the first storm... [Read more of this review]
E-mail, Etiquette, and Friends
A Dad’s Point-of-View By Bruce Sallan E-mail is so ubiquitous that we forget that it isn’t talking on the phone or having a conversation in person. Subtlety, facial expressions, or tonality are all lost in an e-mail message. I have found this has gotten me in trouble when I think I’m being funny, subtle, or sarcastic in an e-mail.... [Read more of this review]
Who Said Marriage Should Be Work?
A Dad’s Point-of-View by Bruce Sallan I recently learned some statistics that surprised me, but upon reflection they really made sense. What do you think the rate of divorce is between first, second, and third marriages? Think about it. I didn’t and came to the wrong conclusion. It’s pretty much agreed by most experts that first... [Read more of this review]
No Need To Travel Alone!
By Jennifer Doncsecz It is often times very pricey for single parents to travel with their kids. Even when kids promo’s are out there to travel for free or at a reduced rate, not having another adult going often times raises the child’s rates to another adult price. Most cruise lines, Disney and all inclusives require... [Read more of this review]
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